*sneaks onto phone sneakily*
Helloo freends. As you know, I stopped identifying as ace a few days ago. My mom told me not to put labels on myself and just to simply be myself. I'm fine with that, but now I'm being myself and mom doesn't like that and wants to change me.
I've always been kind of tomboyish, and nobody seemed to have a problem with that. But recently, that's changed. Mom wants me to be more feminine now that I'm entering into high school next year, but that's just not who I am. She's worried that if I keep dressing and acting boyish that people will start to assume that I'm queer or something, even though I'm straight. I don't even dress that boyishly though, I just wear a t-shirt, ripped jeans and a Vans hat and shoes, but I get them from the women's clothing department. What's the big deal? And so I'm not into many "girly" things besides art, music and acting. So I like skateboarding, dark comedy, basketball, action movies and water guns... but what's wrong with that?
I've tried convincing her it's not going to be that big of a problem, but she claims that it is going to cause issues based on her own personal experiences (in Hollywood in the 1970's... but we live in Canada now and this is 2017!). She says that there's more to being a girl than just being born a girl, though gender/sexual identity and gender expression are two completely different things; you could identify as a boy but act girly, for example, and that's fine. She doesn't seem to get that, though.
Times have changed since she was in high school, and so have social norms. It's more widely considered okay to act differently and not let gender dictate how you act, dress or present yourself.
I don't want to be a boy, I am a girl and I'm comfortable with that. I just want to be true to myself. I'm not going to conform to something I'm not just because mom says so, or because people might make false assumptions. I mean, isn't that inevitable anyway? It doesn't matter what kind of a person you are, people will always judge you or assume things. But that doesn't mean you have to change because of them.
Here's an important message to all of the guys, gals and non-binary pals out there: It's important that you be yourself and not let other people change who you are as a person just because it's considered "normal". You are beautiful, you are unique, and you are your own person. You don't have to conform to the "normal". Just be your own true self. Be-you-tiful!
- @BreakfastClub :3