Why do some people send generally impolite comments?

iiucandyfloss

So, one day, I might say to a usually very kind person ‘Hi!’, and the response can sometimes be an impolite one, like, :
''uhh hi?".

But why?

What is the meaning of turning down another person's day? I had never said a rude word to that person, and neither had they.

I was just having a normal day in life, cleaning my room, reading a book, playing with siblings, watching a movie, etc. Then I walk to my laptop, only to find that I get an impolite comment.

I totally understand that some people have had a bad day, but there is no need to push it into someone else's life.

So, if your friend sends you a greeting, don't turn it down like someone's given you a rotten apple for a gift, try to at least be nice.
It's not cool. It doesn't look good.

So. Why. Does. This. Happen?

Za-Chary

iiucandyfloss wrote:
So, one day, I might say to a usually very kind person ‘Hi!’, and the response can sometimes be an impolite one, like, :
''uhh hi?".

But why?

Context matters here — and so does differing perspectives. If a Scratchers checks their profile and sees that someone who they don't know said “hi” to them, they might not understand why. (“I don't know this person, why are they saying ‘hi’ to me without context?”) So they might respond with “uhh hi?” because they're not sure why the other user said hi.

I don't think I respond in such a way on Scratch, but I know for a fact that if some stranger came up to me in real life and said hi to me, I would respond in a similar manner. (“why is this person saying hi to me oh no what do they want from me this time”)

iiucandyfloss wrote:
What is the meaning of turning down another person's day? I had never said a rude word to that person, and neither had they.

I don't see “uhh hi?” as rudeness, or something intended to ruin another person's day. From what I see, it seems more like confusion.

iiucandyfloss

Za-Chary wrote:
iiucandyfloss wrote:
So, one day, I might say to a usually very kind person ‘Hi!’, and the response can sometimes be an impolite one, like, :
''uhh hi?".

But why?
Context matters here — and so does differing perspectives. If a Scratchers checks their profile and sees that someone who they don't know said “hi” to them, they might not understand why. (“I don't know this person, why are they saying ‘hi’ to me without context?”) So they might respond with “uhh hi?” because they're not sure why the other user said hi.

I don't think I respond in such a way on Scratch, but I know for a fact that if some stranger came up to me in real life and said hi to me, I would respond in a similar manner. (“why is this person saying hi to me oh no what do they want from me this time”)
iiucandyfloss wrote:
What is the meaning of turning down another person's day? I had never said a rude word to that person, and neither had they.
I don't see “uhh hi?” as rudeness, or something intended to ruin another person's day. From what I see, it seems more like confusion.

No, but it is impolite, in my opinion.
Plus, I had had a decent conversation with that person.

Also, she responds in a nicer way to exactly all people except me. I'm being honest here.
I scroll through the other comments, with people saying “Heyyyyyy!” and she responds with, “Heyy my bestieeee!”

Last edited by iiucandyfloss (Dec. 11, 2022 18:15:58)

medians

Za-Chary wrote:
iiucandyfloss wrote:
So, one day, I might say to a usually very kind person ‘Hi!’, and the response can sometimes be an impolite one, like, :
''uhh hi?".

But why?
Context matters here — and so does differing perspectives. If a Scratchers checks their profile and sees that someone who they don't know said “hi” to them, they might not understand why. (“I don't know this person, why are they saying ‘hi’ to me without context?”) So they might respond with “uhh hi?” because they're not sure why the other user said hi.

I don't think I respond in such a way on Scratch, but I know for a fact that if some stranger came up to me in real life and said hi to me, I would respond in a similar manner. (“why is this person saying hi to me oh no what do they want from me this time”)

Yeah that’s what I was saying. Or they just didn’t expect it.

roofogato

“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. its just showing confusion. like dude calm down

Dragonspire77

Tone is hard to convey through plain text and the way a message can be interpreted differs from person to person.

i'm not denying the possibility that the message has a negative-leaning voice, but to me it just sounds like confusion.

iiucandyfloss

roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. It isn't impolite. its It is just showing confusion. snip snip this text

I totally understand that they could be confused because I wasn't active for an hour or something, but I did know them on Scratch (not in real life obviously).

Last edited by iiucandyfloss (Dec. 11, 2022 18:25:37)

iiucandyfloss

Dragonspire77 wrote:
Tone is hard to convey through plain text and the way a message can be interpreted differs from person to person.

i'm not denying the possibility that the message has a negative-leaning voice, but to me it just sounds like confusion.

Interesting. And while it is impossible to know what one's tone is through text, “uhh” can be used for many different things.
For example:

1. In confusion, as in “uhhhhh what????”
2. Nervousness, as in “uhhhhhhhhh……..the answer is…..”
3. Negative tone, as in “uhhhh, ur not my bestie so I'll ignore the fact that politeness is necessary.”

iiucandyfloss

roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. its just showing confusion. like dude calm down

If I don't react now, the person will see an opportunity to bully as I will be seen as “weak” and “sensitive”, which will make me a target.
Like, I'm bullied enough in real life. My only escape is YouTube now lol.

_Icicle-Cube_

iiucandyfloss (OP) wrote:
So, one day, I might say to a usually very kind person ‘Hi!’, and the response can sometimes be an impolite one, like, :
''uhh hi?".

how does saying “uhh” automatically make the message “impolite”

_Icicle-Cube_

iiucandyfloss wrote:
roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. its just showing confusion. like dude calm down

If I don't react now, the person will see an opportunity to bully as I will be seen as “weak” and “sensitive”, which will make me a target.
Like, I'm bullied enough in real life. My only escape is YouTube now lol.

I mean yeah you are acting kinda sensitive over someone saying “uhh hi?”

AntonsH0tPot

because its life

_Icicle-Cube_

iiucandyfloss wrote:
roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. It isn't impolite. its It is just showing confusion. snip snip this text

I totally understand that they could be confused because I wasn't active for an hour or something, but I did know them on Scratch (not in real life obviously).

the attempt at fixing that users grammer only makes me more confused. “It isn't impolite” isn't correct. “isn't impoilte” is correct.

scratchykit5743

“Uh, Hi?” Isn't an “impolite” comment- It seems more like confusion to me. Someone replying in a confused intonation is NOT said person trying to take out their anger on you. People reply in a confused tone sometimes, that's life. Someone saying “Uhh Hi?” isn't something to get worked up about, either- it's 2022, and people say that sometimes.

Rant over. SK out.

roofogato

iiucandyfloss wrote:
roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. It isn't impolite. its It is just showing confusion. snip snip this text

I totally understand that they could be confused because I wasn't active for an hour or something, but I did know them on Scratch (not in real life obviously).

think you messed up your quote there-

roofogato

iiucandyfloss wrote:
roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. its just showing confusion. like dude calm down

If I don't react now, the person will see an opportunity to bully as I will be seen as “weak” and “sensitive”, which will make me a target.
Like, I'm bullied enough in real life. My only escape is YouTube now lol.

how will not responding to “uhh hi?” make you a target lol, they probably had no bad intentions and were just trying to talk also thinking “uhh hi” is impolite is pretty sensitive behavior tbh

_Icicle-Cube_

roofogato wrote:
iiucandyfloss wrote:
roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. It isn't impolite. its It is just showing confusion. snip snip this text

I totally understand that they could be confused because I wasn't active for an hour or something, but I did know them on Scratch (not in real life obviously).

think you messed up your quote there-

I fixed the quotes, should work now

roofogato

_Icicle-Cube_ wrote:
roofogato wrote:
iiucandyfloss wrote:
roofogato wrote:
“uhh hi?” isnt impoilte. It isn't impolite. its It is just showing confusion. snip snip this text

I totally understand that they could be confused because I wasn't active for an hour or something, but I did know them on Scratch (not in real life obviously).

think you messed up your quote there-
I fixed the quotes, should work now

Tyty

qloakonscratch

On Scratch, I have a filter. Outside of Scratch, I don't. So, on Scratch, if somebody I don't know says hi to me, I might say “hi” with all lowercases and leave it at that.

Outside of Scratch, if somebody I don't know contacts me, I'm going to say something like “ummm, hi?” because I don't know who they are.

In short, different people have different ways of interpreting things. Just because you take it one way doesn't mean they didn't mean it another.

bobcat0701

how is uhhh hi rude or “generally impolite” its a way of saying I don't know you but hello

also questions like why do people do this are generally hard to answer since forum users are not everyone

this whole topic feels like a fourth grade lesson on emotions and what they mean

Last edited by bobcat0701 (Dec. 12, 2022 04:57:14)

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